Welcome to The Quiet Rich, your weekly guide to a quiet mind and rich life. Today we’re talking about the #1 person everyone needs in their life (and how to be that person for someone else).
CONTEXT
This 1-minute video gives me chills every time I watch it.
Entrepreneur Alex Hormozi had just lost everything. His final “Hail Mary” bet on his business didn’t work. He sat down with his then-girlfriend, Leila, and told her he was a sinking ship—and that if she wanted to leave, he would understand.
She said she would sleep under a bridge with him if it came to that.
They’re now worth hundreds of millions. And it’s in part thanks to Leila’s unwavering belief in Alex at his lowest point. A true ride-or-die partner.
We all have people in our lives who show up when it's fun, easy, or convenient. Those are daylight friends. But the truly rare friends? They show up for you in your darkest hour when you have nothing to offer in return.
Those are your "day one" people. And they are worth more than any investment you'll ever make.
The best way to find dark-hour friends? Become that kind of person for someone else.
THE METHOD
3 powerful ways to reignite someone’s self-belief:
1. Show up—even when you don't know what to say.
Most people don't abandon their friends in dark moments out of selfishness.
They simply don’t want to say the wrong thing. So they say nothing. They wait for the storm to pass, planning to reach out once things get better. But that's not when they need you most.
Try something like this:
"I've been thinking about you, and I keep picking up my phone and putting it down because I don't know what to say. But I didn't want another day to go by without you knowing I'm here."
You don't need a grand gesture. A text. A coffee or takeout dinner dropped at their door. Just something that tells them they’re not alone.
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2. Remind them of their track record.
When someone is in a 3-month dip, they can't see their 3-year climb. That's where you come in and hold up a mirror.
Instead of vague encouragement, get specific:
"Remember when you faced [similar challenge] back in 2022? You got through it. I was there—I saw you. And remember that unexpectedly good thing that came out of it?”
Concrete evidence is so much harder to dismiss than general encouragement.
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3. Give them something to hold on to.
When people are in a dark place, they lose the ability to imagine things getting better. So lend them your vision for their future.
Not generic optimism like "things will work out." (They'll ignore that.) Instead: "I genuinely believe that in two years, you're going to look back at this as the moment that changed everything for you."
You're not sugarcoating their reality. You're offering a perspective they temporarily can't see on their own.
WHY IT WORKS
Everyone needs one voice. Just one. One person who believes in them so fully that their own doubt doesn't stand a chance.
Think about the Leilas in your life—the people who showed up for you before you had anything to show for yourself. Reach out to one of them this week. Tell them how much they mean to you. You could even forward this email and say you immediately thought of them when you read it.
And then ask yourself: Who in your life could use a voice like that right now? One of the greatest gifts you can give another person is the unwavering belief that they're going to make it.
All my love,
Jade
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